A couple weeks ago, when I was hanging out with Sarah and Danielle, we passed a guy on the street handing out free one-day gym passes, and Sarah remarked, “you should take one for Fit for Free!” But I didn’t take one. I had absolutely no desire to. And it’s prompted a reevaluation of the blog.
I feel like a blog called “Fit for Free” should really have more of a focus on free/affordable activity! (Like this page on Melissa’s blog.) But I don’t think that free/affordable activity is really what I’m looking for anymore. The “guilt” from spending money on the gym but feeling like I wasn’t enjoying it or getting a good workout is only a small piece of the puzzle—a contributing factor to my unhappiness with my fitness level when I started the blog, but not the problem itself.
When I first started the blog in December, I envisioned a forum for sharing at-home workouts, and tracking my fitness progress after quitting the gym. I also thought I’d seek out free/cheap passes to gyms, yoga studios, and other fitness classes (like the Bikram yoga 30 days for $30 “challenge,” which I used to kick-start my gym-free life). But I haven’t taken advantage of such opportunities, even though they’ve certainly presented themselves (beyond that free gym pass on the street!)
Case in point: A couple months ago, I received a letter from my old gym with a survey asking “Why Did you Cancel Your Monthy Membership?” The “prize” for completing the survey was a free month-long pass. I filled out the survey and printed out the pass, but despite my best intentions, I didn’t go to the gym once that month. This was partially due to the fact that I’ve found fun (and free!) ways of staying active (every time I wrote “gym” on my calendar, my brain objected with: “I don’t want to waste my energy at a spinning class when I could be running around the park with Arthur!”*), and partially because a less welcome, nagging voice also kicked in (“you could go to a spinning class every day for the next month—then you’ll be in great shape for your trip to Florida in May!”**). After making/breaking quite a few gym dates, I realized that if I want to silence that voice, I need to stay away from the gym, at least for now.
Why? Because the gym isn’t fun for me, and because of this, it turns exercise into a chore rather than a joy, and brings back a lot of body-consciousness. If I’m not enjoying the exercise, then I have to ask myself why I’m going to the gym in the first place, and the only thing I can come up with is vanity.***
I know that joy and vanity aren’t the only two reasons that people exercise. When Brandi did her heart health series a few months ago, and talked about the health benefits of different types of exercise, something hit me: I don’t exercise for health, but so many people do. I exercise because I love the feeling of being active and strong. Exercise improves my mood and self-confidence tremendously. If I did exercise for health, then going to the gym wouldn’t feel like a chore.
The bottom line is: the past few months have taught me is that when I started the blog, it was to learn how to keep activity FUN, listen to my body, and learn how to trust it—not how to spend zero money on fitness. In other words, what I really wanted was to get in touch with my intuition. If my intuition told me to go to the gym, then I’d probably go to the gym, regardless of the fact that it’s not free.***
This blog has been unbelievably helpful to me in the past few months (almost entirely thanks to you!!!) and has brought me to a place where I feel calmer around food, and more confident in my ability to honor my hunger and maintain a good level of activity without forcing it. I’m on a path that I know I can stay on.
So here’s the question: Do you think I should keep my current blog name, or transition to a site more in line with my REAL goals—fitness, balance, and intuition?
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*I would be remiss if I didn’t mention Arthur as a major motivating factor in staying gym-free. If it wasn’t for him, I might have re-joined the gym, or bought a monthly pass to a yoga studio, as soon as I felt myself falling out of shape. But now, I know that I don’t need to. I LOVE our outings together, and always look forward to them. For the past few weeks I’ve taken him for an hour-long run/walk in the evenings after work, and it’s improving my mood, endurance, and overall sense of well-being. I never have to force myself to get up and go the way I did with the gym.
**I’ll be in Florida on that trip for the next four days, and won’t have access to a computer, but look forward to resuming blogging when I return next week
And I’m SO, SO glad that I didn’t force myself through a month at the gym during one of the nicest months of the year just so I’d feel better about myself in a bathing suit!!
***Coincidentally, the word that spell-check insists on replacing my name with.
May 7, 2009 at 3:23 pm
thanks for the link love. I had the same issue when I transitioned by blog from a marathon training blog to a general fitness blog.
Go with your gut! enjoy your trip.
May 7, 2009 at 3:31 pm
I always felt self-conscious going to the gym myself. All those hard bodies seemed like they were competing and comparing themselves against each other.
May 7, 2009 at 4:30 pm
how about “fit for fun??!”
May 7, 2009 at 5:23 pm
great, great post Vani! name change or no name change, I think you have a great blog. I so look forward to your posts – they are always thought provoking and get me thinking about a lot of things I seem to push to the back of my mind sometimes.
I hope you have a great trip!
May 7, 2009 at 5:29 pm
I hope you have a great time in Flordia!
Now that the weather is nice I’m so dreading those trips to the gym. I actually haven’t gone in over a week, I’ve been enjoying the nice days and on days when it’s rainy I’ve found things to do inside with DVD’s etc.
May 7, 2009 at 6:44 pm
great post vani! i hope you enjoy your time in FL! i think if you keep your name you know where you came from, but if you change it you know where youre going, so either way do what you like best! enjoy the weather and being outside with arthur!
May 8, 2009 at 12:44 am
honestly, i don’t think of the “fit” in your title as just about being physically fit. your posts are too deep for that! i think about it as mentally fit, physically fit, emotionally fit, and more. That’s what you are now! So, I think the title still fits, but as everyone else has said, go with your gut
And I’m in the market for fun outdoor evening activity because I want to be fit for fun, too! Can I come join you on an Arthur date??
May 8, 2009 at 12:15 pm
Have a good time in Florida!!!
I agree with Sarah, I think that “fit” can be defined in numerous ways. You can change it if you feel uncomfortable, but in a way, you ARE staying fit for free, by taking advantage of the great (Brooklyn) outdoors!
May 8, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Hmmm, I always kind of thought of free in your blog name as in freedom…
May 9, 2009 at 9:35 am
I think you should keep the name – you could do a little explanation page describing what you have done here about your journey. The title can be explained in many ways, and I like how it conjures up the feeling of freedom – free from the pressure of the gym, etc.
May 12, 2009 at 11:07 am
Have a great vacation!!
I think you should keep the name too, but go with your gut
I like Ruby’s idea about the explanation page. Either way, your blog has been such an inspiration and source of motivation for me and I am so proud of you for making great strides in becoming more comfortable with food and exercise. You ARE on a great path and I know you can keep it up!!
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