- Ah, the humble bullet point. I’m not sure who invented you, but you certainly help me out when my head feels like a jumbled mess!
But before I go down that road, I just want to give you guys a big hug and say THANK YOU! for your kind words on my rather stress-laden last post. I appreciate it so much.
There are so many things going on that I’m not sure where to start. I hope you guys don’t mind that I treat this blog like a journal. Seriously: I never write in a journal anymore, and this is the kind of stuff that used to go into it (plus, of course, embarrassing poems about boys I liked):
- S.’s job. It’s something that he will figure out on his own, I’m not worried about him, and while it’s stressful now, this is good for him in the long run because he’ll find something that he likes better than his last job. I have full faith in him.
- Teaching. It’s something I’ve always thought I wanted to do. However, sometimes when you think you want to do something, you realize in the course of trying to get there that it might not be right for you. Sorry, that was a horrible sentence!
- Example: when I was in college, I thought I wanted to transfer to another school at the end of my sophomore year. In the course of applying to transfer to two other schools, I realized that I didn’t actually want to leave the school, I just wanted to change my major from English to Anthropology/Music and study abroad. Which I did.
- Why teaching is not right for me: I enjoy one-on-one work with people. It’s my favorite thing. I love meeting with the girl I mentor and talking about her writing—what’s strong, what could be stronger, grammatical inconsistencies, etc. I loved meeting one-on-one with special-needs and ESL kids during my college and post-college tutoring/teaching jobs. However, teaching is not one-on-one.
- Why I love one-on-one work: I love to help people find their writing “voice.” When I can clearly express my thoughts and feelings, I gain a sense of power and ownership over them. It helps keep me from being self-destructive. I love it when I feel like I can help someone else find that power in their own words.
- What it boils down to: I am trying to find my own voice and want to be more creative. Being more creative is scary. Helping kids be more creative is infinitely rewarding, but not scary.
- What it really boils down to: I need to stop second-guessing myself. Rather than channel so much energy into finding the perfect career, I need to keep doing what I’m doing—volunteering, enjoying my job for its own merits (and the amazing people I work with)—and keep trying to find my own voice. I’ll keep writing songs, keep up the blog, keep reading, and try to find more and more creative outlets. It is scary because the more you put yourself out there, the higher the chance of being rejected. And the more you chase inspiration, the more it hurts when you lose it. But those aren’t good reasons to stop being creative!
- Something to celebrate: The band I play in (This Reporter) is going to be recording 2 songs I wrote, and working them into rotation in our performances
I’m really excited about this—I’m not a great singer but really enjoy writing songs, and I LOVE our singer Jen’s voice. I think she’ll do an amazing job with them. I put the songs up on my music page if you’d like to listen (“Nothing I Can Do” and “Tennessee”)
- Things to be thankful for (thanks, RuntoFinish, for reminding me to be thankful): my family, my health, my partner, my dog, a roof over my head, as much food and water as I need, the girl I mentor, the blog world, the ability to write at all, my sanity, the sunshine today.
Many of you are recent college graduates/masters degree students/teachers yourselves. I would love any advice you could give me. Is your job something you love, or just a way of supporting your “extracurricular” passions? How did you get where you are? Where do you want to go?!
March 31, 2009 at 7:28 pm
Where to begin? I started off wanting to go into law but found that teaching was my calling. I love Math and there is such a shortage of qualified teachers I felt this was perfect for me. I love my job because it is so rewarding. But in today’s society, teaching is much harder due to various factors and obstacles. It is also very time-demanding. I find myself making more of a difference when I work in small groups or individually with students before/after school. Only you can know where you feel the best and most productive, so go with your instincts. Hope this helps!
March 31, 2009 at 7:37 pm
What a great and honest post!
First of all, thanks for sharing all of that. I totally had no idea you were in a band! We didn’t get to that in our conversation at the blogger meet-up
I’m still in college, but will be graduating next December, a semester early, and I don’t know what I want to do, except seek a career in public service that is rewarding and empowering to both me and the community I work in and have enough time to start a family, because I CANNOT WAIT to have children! I think I might do an AmeriCorps program post graduation for a year and see what where that will bring me. I know that I want to sustain my passion for social justice throughout my life and not let that idealism fade away after graduation.
The best advice is to follow your heart and keep your options open, which seems like that’s what you’re already doing! I would definitely suggest involvement in volunteering and community service because it’s great experience.
Also, think of your dream job…Then you can google some people in the art world in your area (there are PLENTY in Brooklyn alone
) and ask them for a chance to meet with you. Maybe they can provide you with some insight or advice on how they got there.
Good luck and again, thanks for sharing.
P.S. Sorry for writing an essay…hahaha
March 31, 2009 at 8:14 pm
great bullets
Eh…my job is not my dream job, I don’t want to be here, but I have to right now. I’m the one with insurance and benefits since my husband is finishing school. I’m trying to find a job heading in the right direction, but it’s just not happening yet.
March 31, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Congrats on the songs!!
I was originally thisclose to becoming a teacher but after gaining more and more experience I learned it wasn’t for me. I switched my major to physical therapy and I always thank God for my parents who are always supportive since they’re footing the bill!
March 31, 2009 at 9:50 pm
What a great post! Way to stay positive. I used to work in non-profit event planning. Yes, I worked for a good cause, but I was miserable! After sustaining a running injury, I started seeing a massage therapist, and was amazed by how much she helped my body. So, I quit my job and started massage therapy school a month later. I’m much happier, and I LOVE my job! We spend so much of our lives working, and so I think we should be doing something we truly love. Life is too short!
How fun that you’re a songwriter. I’m totally going to go check out your Music Page right now.
March 31, 2009 at 9:53 pm
Loved Tennessee. Beautiful
March 31, 2009 at 11:05 pm
Deep breaths! Everything will be ok!
April 1, 2009 at 12:03 am
I am one semester short of my degree, yet I found a great job anyways. My company is going to pay for me to get my credentials for the job and finish my B.A. And the money is way more than I could ever imagine making.
But I don’t like the job. After being there for a year and a half, I decided my heart wasn’t in it. I have to go with my gut and go back to school. I’m not sure yet, but I either want to do social work or R.D.
Remember, no matter what you choose to do, you can always choose something different down the road again.
April 1, 2009 at 12:52 am
Since you are weighing teaching as an option I won’t even comment on my job! I do want to say good luck with everything, sometimes we just have to remember that everything in life leads to something else and that we have no idea where “bad” turns will end. Great job keeping up the positiviting and reminding ME to be thankful as well!
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April 1, 2009 at 1:14 am
I loved this post! You’ve captured so many things I’ve been thinking lately, in a much better way then I possibly could have.
I do not love my job, I don’t hate it but it’s not a fulfilling job like I always thought I’d have. I work with some really great people, and my boss is constantly challenging me, but maybe I need to use the next 6 months to find something I love.
April 1, 2009 at 11:25 am
Vani,
I’m sorry things have been so stressful!! I wish you the best and I hope you have a great time visiting your families
Times may be a little tougher right now, but you still have so many great things to be thankful for
In college I started off majoring in physical therapy, but then started teaching aerobics classes and doing some one-on-one tutoring and knew that teaching was my calling. I had always loved math, so that’s what I did! I truly love teaching high school. The kids are so unique and fun, and it’s great to be able to make a difference.
Just a thought…we have SSD teachers at our schools who work with students who have special needs; either on their caseloads (and they have to hold IEP meetings and other things besides just teaching), but I have an SSD teacher who comes into my room to co-teach with me because we have kids in that class who need math minutes because of their IEP’s. She gets to work one-on-one with students very often. Some are also assigned kind of as aids to kids who need someone working with them side by side alot throughout the day. So just a thought, not sure if that is up your alley or not, but it’s a way to get more one-on-one time with students and teach at the same time
It is a very demanding job, but very rewarding as well.
I had no idea you were in a band! That’s pretty cool
I’ll have to check out your songs. Take care!
April 1, 2009 at 8:20 pm
I really like how you seemed to be very optimistic about what is happening in your life right now. It is so important to keep that optimism.
Isn’t the one-on-one thing something that can be incorporated into your teaching? I’m sure there are positions in teaching which will facilitate this.
April 2, 2009 at 1:53 pm
i LOVED following your train of thought as you yanked yourself right up out of the doldrums! that’s my favorite thing about your blog — you take us right along on the mental journey
i REALLY hope this grad school thing is going to get me where i need to go!!! (i.e. traveling the world saving babies and tasting exotic food …)
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